When it comes to pregnancy everyone starts behaving like an expert. They come up with numerous unsolicited advises and comments especially when you tell them that you are battling infertility. For a woman, nothing on this earth can be worse than knowing that she can’t have her own baby. Giving birth to a new life in this world is the most special moment in every woman’s life. The feeling is actually unexplainable.However, when a woman gets to know about her infertility her world turns upside down. All of a sudden everyone becomes a counselor. While some people’s words provide solace in the distress, others have just lost their mind somewhere. They don’t know how to start a conversation. Here are few things That you should not say to an infertile woman.
However, when a woman gets to know about her infertility her world turns upside down. All of a sudden everyone becomes a counselor. While some people’s words provide solace in the distress, others have just lost their mind somewhere. They don’t know how to start a conversation. Here are few things that you should not say to an infertile woman.
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1. “At least you don’t have to bear any pain, after all, it’s not Cancer”
Yeah, it’s not a deadly disease like a Cancer. Yes, it doesn’t come with an unbearable pain like Cancer does. But you can’t deny the fact that along with the news of infertility, an inexpressible amount of emotional pain also comes that isn’t easy to deal with.
2. “There’s one good thing about it. You won’t have periods”
Having periods is so much better than not having a baby. It’s actually worth bearing the periods cramps if you know that one day you will have a baby.
3. “I wish I couldn’t have kids too”
Well, you might not want kids. But the person you are talking to wants them very badly. So better not utter anything stupid like this.
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4. “My brother’s girlfriend’s sister has something like this too”
There are chances that you know other people too who had gone through this phase too. But comparing their stories won’t help as everyone has a different way of dealing with it.
5. ” You are not even married so why are you worrying so much?”
Yes you are right. The person you are talking to is probably 23 years old and she is independent. Today she doesn’t want to have kids. However, she is also a normal girl like you. Like every other normal girl, she also dreams of getting married and having kids in the future.
6. “Be happy with what you have”
This is the worst thing you can ever say to any woman dealing with infertility. It’s like reminding her of what she lacks and most probably after hearing this she will break into tears.
7. “With modern medicines, you will get pregnant one day soon”
Yes we agree that today modern medicines are capable of dealing with numerous diseases and has helped people in healing with injuries. It has also helped people have babies. But when you mention the word modern medicines to a young girl, it only ends up scaring her. Give her some time and when you think it’s the right time only then introduce her to modern medicines.